my poor constipated son

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Kathy asks:

I have a four-year-old son who has been constipated for the past week. I took him to the doctors twice and once to the ER. He was on stool softeners and they did nothing. He was also given an enema and has only had one bowel movement. I have also tried prune juice with no results. He is now having a fear of going to the bathroom when he has to go cause of how painful it was for him with his last poop. They are big hard round balls and he is afraid to give that little extra push to get his bowels going. Is there anything else I can give him to soften his stool like some kind of drink or food that will really make him run to the toilet?


Dear Kathy,

The only thing that I can recommend that you do at this point is to completely change this kid's diet. Feed him only high-fiber foods. Fruits, vegies and whole grains. Avoid milk and cheese; instead, have him eat yogurt at least once a day. (Activia would be the preferred choice). Also, make sure that he is drinking lots of water. If he doesn't like to drink plain water, make some Kool-aid or other flavored water.

Cut out all fast foods and junk food and anything containing caffeine such as soda or chocolate, at least until he is able to have a BM that is not painful. Part of the problem is that he is most likely compounding the constipation by holding off on having his movements, and thus getting even more constipated in the process.

This cycle must be broken now to prevent a lifetime of suffering from irregular bowel patterns. Give him plenty of emotional support and encouragement regarding his potty adventures. It might even be good at this point to give significant rewards for any accomplishments he makes. But don't use food sources as the reward. Instead, you could implement a point system in which he can earn points toward a special toy or movie.

Thanks for asking Motherload!

Motherload is a Certified Nurse Assistant as well as an IBS sufferer, which means she knows a lot about poop. Got a question for her? Ask it here.












29 Comments on "my poor constipated son"

CaCa Doodle Doo's picture
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One word: OXYPOWDER. It will liquify the poo and clean it out. It's used extensively with autistic kids, who often have constipation due to the gut damage that goes along with autism.

Nine Inch Log's picture
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Or you could give him that green shit everyone drinks before a colonoscopy. He won't need to shit for a week after that stuff finishes with him.

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DungDaddy's picture
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Are you feeding the boy? If put nothying in, nothing will come out.

Bowl Clogger Blogger's picture
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If your son is really becoming emotionally distraught and continues not to produce any bowel movements, you might eventually need to schedule with a specialist. I agree with Motherload about the dietary stuff, but I'd also add that I'd encourage the boy to get physically active. Take him for a jog or play a game in the back yard that involves lots of running, jumping, etc.
Sorry to suggest this, but if the kid is only "constipated" for a week and has already been taken to see medical professionals three times, you might be unnecessarily alarming him and overreacting. Stool softeners and an enema, all in one week? And you're surprised he's a bit gun shy about taking a crap?
Maybe something else is going on here. Do you yourself have a history of difficulties with bowel movements or your approach to things relating to them? Just wondering. Don't take it as an accusation, but I get the feeling you might be communicating some hysteria to the child that isn't helping the situation.

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healthy 1's picture
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Three tried and true remedies to get things moving are: mineral oil, castor oil, or cod liver oil. Your son will cringe at the taste of this stuff, but should be as regular as a Swiss watch.
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I can second Motherload's recommendation of Activia to attempt to restore bowel regularity. If this situation continues to be chronic, however, I'm wondering if an examination of diet and exercise might be in order, as some other posters have mentioned.

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CaCa Doodle Doo (5) -- 11.20.2006
One word: OXYPOWDER.

And, if Billy Mays is telling the truth, it will get your whites whiter than any bleach can.

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Please, please, please, tell me you didn't just call Willie Mays "Billy".... dear God, forgive her.

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GottaGoGirl's picture
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Do you not watch television? Billy. Billy Mays.

Fart Poopie's picture
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If he's only been constipated a week, give it a rest. You probably scared the kid poopless by taking him to the doctor three times in 7 days.

When my oldest, who is also 4, gets constipated, I give her a bowl of oatmeal and a cup of blueberries for breakfast. We avoid all meat and give her a lot of prune juice throughout the day. She also gets a quarter of a Fiber Choice tablet a day until the problem is gone. It might take another couple days to get things moving, but it's important not to scare your child so that he doesn't hold it in on purpose. Just relax, don't even bring the topic up and discretely monitor his bathroom usage.

He's already pooped a bit this week.
If he doesn't poop at all in another week or if he poops an insignificant amount in the next 1 and a half to 2 weeks, then go take him to a doctor for a more thorough examination.

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I remember my brother having constipation issues up until he was about 6 or 7 years old. So did my husband's brother...both cases were pretty much due to picky eating and a hatred for veggies. Does your son eat fruits and vegetables? If not, you may want to make him a special "smoothie" made of pureed strawberries, spinach, melon, ice, a little milk, a drizzle of honey, and a handful of blueberries. Blend that up and give it to him. He'll never know it's fruits and veggies in disguise. My mom also gave my brother enemas (which TERRIFIED him, btw) and prunes.
My sis and I never had any "issues" mostly due to the fact that we were virtual fruit and veggie vacuums when we were kids...my dad couldn't keep produce around us at all, we'd eat it up. I'm telling you...fiber, water, and physical activity should be all the laxative any kid really needs.


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Come to my next stand up gig.If I can't scare the shit out of him no one can.Come and get some comic relief.

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Best of luck, Kathy. As just about every experienced pooper here knows, I had serious trouble with my daughter, "Thing Two" because she had salmonella, and this in turn ripped her little insides up so much she became a "constipated non-pooper"

Putting prune juice in her drinks, giving her cholase, milk of magnesia, and feeding her things like applesauce and fruit helped tremendously.

However, the first few months were still full of times that she held it in. It took a bit of time for her to get over the fear. Revamping the diet will be the most important thing you can do along with supporting him and not making light of how much he may be afraid.

There were turds that came out of my kid that were almost as big as an adults's at first, and it was so hard to get through for both of us. Don't give up and remember to tell you kid "this will not last forever". For some reason, kids do lose sight of this fact.


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Michael Richards (not verified) -- 11.20.2006
Come to my next stand up gig.If I can't scare the shit out of him no one can.Come and get some comic relief.

OMG. I didn't read the by-line first, and didn't get it. So funny. Will we all understand the Michael Richards reference when this thread is archived?

Double Flush's picture
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Going to the doctor three times in a week would scare me out of pooping, too. You're probably putting the poor kid's mind through hell, not to mentioning scarring him for life and making him scared of pooping and doctors.

A week is nothing to be that paranoid over. I have noticed that a lot of people go nuts if they don't make a BM every day, and it's completely ridiculous. Just give it some time. I myself have been bunged up, but it all worked out in the end. I pooped, and everything was fine, and nobody got hurt. Stop worrying unless it lasts longer, and just let nature run its course.

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daphne's picture
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My children loved the doctor because it's always been either
1.) a european road trip
2.) involved lunch out
3.) has been in a hospital with an escalator

They are so easy to please.

You know, I love those damned Things.


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Double Flush's picture
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I had a love-hate relationship when I was a kid
L) Nice guy
L) Free candy
L) Time out of school
H) Shots and things hurt
H) Embarrassed to be examined
H) Nervousness with all the instruments
H) Being poked, felt, and prodded

It's easy now when I bring my dad with me. Talk for a few minutes, look at what matters, write me a damn prescription and get on to the next patient.

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Double Flush's picture
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Note: My dad knows the doctors at the clinic really well and he works at the hospital. I got connections =)

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the log of hazzard's picture
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Hmm, you might want to make sure he doesn't have what I had, or something along those lines, the "phobia."

I had it in a way that I just didn't like crapping so I held it in until I exploded. It's almost like hysteria of feces. Sounds like he has it worse, where he is scared of pooping. Telling him there's nothing to be afraid of will keep him away from years of suffering.

If that doesn't work, just keep loading him with the fiber, and have a mop at the ready.

Some are born crappy, some achieve crappiness, and some have crapiness thrusted upon them. (Do NOT be the last one)

Sandy's picture

Try MetaCleanse. It's all natural. I'd just cut the dosage in half for a child. It will add some fiber to your child's diet plus it has bentonite clay and flax to heal inside. Great stuff. I use it every day.

http://metacleanse.com/

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Just give him a good squeeze.
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pooverbs's picture

A wise comment was once made in a Disney movie,
Sung by the characters Jane and Michael Banks
"never give us castor oil or gruel, love as as a son and daughter and never smell of...." Castor oil has been known to work quite well but don't plan on going anywhere for a few hours but from what I understand it will clean out EVERYTHING. The same things that work for us may work too Coffee, and lots of chocolate, nothing like the HERSHEY SQUIRTS. And maybe he will learn to enjoy pooing if it means chocolate.

JamieTeal's picture
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When he does make a big poop, never make any comments like, "oh, my, that's a big one," or "you clogged the toilet!" Even if you have to plunge, don't make any comments because a comment like that convinced me not to poop in my home toilet for 10 years of my childhood--I'm not exaggerating the number.

Anonymous Coward's picture

When I was about your sons age, I was always constipated. This went on for a few years. After a few overnight Hospital visits and many hours of sitting on the toilet with no results, they finally discovered that my stomach wasn't absorbing the nutrients from my food. That's why I'm so short. There's a name for this disease that escapes me now..but it might be something to look into. Just a thought.

Raggedmama's picture
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Certainly increase his fruit/veggie intake, using every trick in the book to make them more palatable for him - but also use suppositories if he isn't "doing" for two or three days.

dragonfly's picture

I have a 5 year old daughter who poops bigger than anything I've ever seen.If I give her prune juice everyday she's usually ok.

The Shit Volcano's picture
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When I was ten years old I had one of the worst cases of constipation in my life! It was my first case of giganto log, which would plague me for years and make me a world famous toilet clogger in college (sometimes on purpose). Anyway, this constipation was so horrible that I spend three days home from school laying on my stomach because it hurt to press on my asshole. The only thing that freed my monsturd was a bowl of stewed prunes (which tasted like ass, but I was desperate).

I think kids under twelve sometimes get constipated this way because they forget to drink water. Then they go outside and play for hours on end and get dehydrated just enough to harden their stools. Things get compacted in there and suddenly... Well, your kid ends up like I did.

Remind your kids to drink water when they're active. And remember the stewed prunes!

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Teddygirll's picture

here is one possiblity. kid might have autism.
it is one of the symptoms of the condition.
how do i know? researched and personal experience. currently my daughter is the only one who is constantly constipated. i used to be till i had to go thru chemo(breast cancer). and both of us have autism.
i now have to take 3 anti-diarrheal pills a day. otherwise it is all liquid and i cramp badly. the pills keep me nicely constipated and no cramps.

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Teddygirl, you have autism?
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